We all spend lots of our time waiting in the game lobby to be matched with players of our skill level. But what are the odds that the gamer you are matched with, actually happens to be the love of your life?! Matchmaking in Love tells the stories of real gamers who happened to meet their significant others online, and gives you all a bit of insight to their every day lives.
I got the chance of interviewing Jiwan “xSangha” Adamson (formerly PMS Sangha), a 23 year old pro gamer from Canada, and got the scoop on her gamer love life! She and her husband H20 The Drizzle, who is now in the Army, met through mutual friends while playing Halo 2 on Xbox Live. She was immediately attracted to his great sense of humor and began playing Halo 2 and chatting with him on a daily basis.
Chicka: How often did you two play Halo 2 together, and did you chat more on XBL or on the phone?
xSangha: We played everyday together and for hours on end, any free time we both had we would spend either on the Xbox playing Halo 2 together or just sitting in a room chatting together. We definately chatted more on xbl than on the phone.
Chicka: How long was it before you actually saw a pic of each other? Did you even care about looks, and when you did see a picture, did he match your “type”?
xSangha: I never saw a picture, I flew down to see him in person 2 months after we met on line. I didnt care about looks, but when I did finally see him, he did match my type 
After meeting him we hit it off so well I ended up moving in with him, a few months later we were engaged. Now we are married and have a child.
Chicka: How did he propose, and how did your family feel about you getting married to a gamer you met online?
xSangha: He proposed in the parking lot of a mall after a day of shopping, he came up behind me, hugged me, and then pulled out a little box from his pocket and asked me to be his wife! Not the most romantic, but it was cute and totally unexpected. My parents were wanting us to wait a little longer before we got married, they felt we were too young, but I dont think they cared that I had met my fiancee on line.
Chicka: What about your friends, did they feel as if this was taking away too much time from them?
xSangha: My friends supported it, but at the same time they did feel it took a lot of my time.
Chicka: How far did you move to be with him, and did you ever feel as if you were moving too fast?
xSangha: I moved all the way from Vancouver, Canada to Arizona to be with him :). And yeah I did, I was sort of hesitant to move in so soon.
Chicka: Is this your first online relationship, and have you ever had a real life relationship? In your past relationships, did you move or travel to be with them as well?
xSangha: This was not my frist online relationship, and I had a few real life relationships in the past. I once travelled to an MLG from Canada to Philadelphia to be with my first on line boyfriend, cost me an arm and a leg, but it was definatley worth it!
Chicka: How often do you game now, and do you still play video games together?
xSangha: I game every day, some days more than others, it usually depends on if I have lots to do around the house or not and whether or not my teammates are online and ready to play. An ideal practice day usually consists of at least 4 hours of playing. And No, we dont play games together anymore, we used to play Halo 2 together.
Chicka: I know that gaming with a husband or boyfriend can also act as quality time to gamers. Since you no longer play the same games, do you feel as if your missing out on your gaming quality time together?
xSangha: Well he has given up gaming all together, so there is definitely an issue with spending quality time together when I’m getting in practice with my team before an event, but i try to balance it all out! =D
Chicka: Since you’re a hardcore pro gamer ;), do you see yourself gaming in the future, or do you see yourself doing something else in the next 10 years?
xSangha: I do see myself gaming in the future. Gears of War 2 is just around the corner and I hope to see it picked up for MLG’s 2009 pro circuit :). As for the next 10 years and gaming? I am not too sure about that one, we’ll see how it goes 
Chicka: Does your hubby travel with you to tournaments?
xSangha: Since my husband is in the military and we have a son, he doesn’t travel with me to MLG’s, he stays home and watches our son and they cheer me on from home.
Chicka: Since you have experience dating online, do you think it feels more natural than having a real life relationship? And if you had the chance to do it again, would you think of having another online relationship?
xSangha: Sometimes it does… gamers do after all spend a lot of time on line. If my marriage was to fail and I had the option… I might. I might n
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You can catch xSangha on Xbox live practicing for the next MLG tournament. She specializes in Gears of War and Halo 3.
You can catch another upcoming article of Matchmaking in Love next week! I’ll be interviewing more gaming couples, and I also have an interview coming with one of the coolest guys on youtube where I’ll get his take of online relationships!
September 5th, 2008 at 6:47 pm
Yay! My first article! WOOT!
September 5th, 2008 at 7:52 pm
Yay!! Way to go hun! I loved it
September 5th, 2008 at 8:05 pm
I remember seeing your name from SRK.
September 5th, 2008 at 9:38 pm
Great article! I didn’t meet my boyfriend online, but we basically started dating over WoW because that was the only way I could get ahold of him!
September 6th, 2008 at 6:19 am
Great job Chicka! While my boyfriend and I didn’t meet online, we DID meet at an industry event (Game Developers Conference 2005) So, it goes to show that gaming can bring people together in more ways than one!
September 6th, 2008 at 9:20 am
Yeah Astral, I do hang around SRK forums! I poke my head around but I cant stay for long because the boys there are just gross chauvinists!!
September 6th, 2008 at 9:21 am
OMG that’s way cute! I think it’s totally romantic! I mean, just taking a chance on chance itself *sigh*!
I’ve never met anyone online… but if I weren’t married I’d be up for it… I met my hubby at a cop and hooker party *lol*! XD
September 6th, 2008 at 12:23 pm
Trust me, I don’t blame you. That place is like 4chan if it was American.
I’ve made female friends through gaming, but never actually tried to “hook up” with one.
September 6th, 2008 at 1:18 pm
Nice. I can totally see it happening. I accidentally met my wife through MySpace chatting about Sailor Moon. I had no intention of meeting her… just kind of happened. But I am glad it did. Kind of having that one initial thing in common helped break the ice and all ready we had something solid to talk and discuss. And of course you talk about one thing that leads to another and then so on. So yeah. That was a really sweet story. Thanks Chickamungus.
September 6th, 2008 at 1:32 pm
AHHHH SANGHA!!! Ive known her for a looong time. Such a seriously sweet girl, and she totally owns at halo LOL! Glad to see her featured here as well!
My husband and I didn’t meet online, but it was video games that got us to hook up. We had a mutual friend and one day I went over to his house to hang out and Neil (my hubby) was there. He was playing metal gear 2 and I was watching him play it. When I commented that “the cool part where you get to take pictures of the metal gear is coming up” he said it was immediate love! haha!
Great article Chicka! Love it!
September 6th, 2008 at 7:47 pm
My last girlfriend was an online occurrence… back in ‘97 (ouch) when I was living in Chicago I was on AOL and was bored to tears, so I was going into chat rooms and watching people talk- well I went into the wrong room I intended to, and I noticed a person with one of Prince’s many different “pen names” and I made a quick Prince comment.
She immediately glomped onto me, and we talked for quite a few months- probably half a year, both in chat and on the phone. Then I flew out to meet her in New York, staying at her house- she still lived with her family- so they could assure themselves I was *not*, in fact, an axe murderer. Once assured (I fooled them!) we returned together to Chicago and she spent a week with me.
Next thing I know, she’s planning to move in with me and get married and all sorts of stuff! Now, I’m not like most guys- I WANT to get married and all that stuff, but the problem was I didn’t hit it off with her as much as she hit it off with me. There were some maturity issues that scared me on her end, so, I ended it rather than drag it out and make it even harder in later.
I’m impressed in the article about the fact that she went to meet the guy without getting to know what he looked like first- I often hear of women who say “looks don’t matter”, but I haven’t seen many instances of that in my life being true, so it’s refreshing to hear for us with ugly mugs. =P
September 7th, 2008 at 10:34 am
Aww Druid, I’m sorry your last relationship didn’t work out =( And yeah, this is a sweet story from a gaming p.o.v. and also a great story about how looks don’t matter to everyone! The article for next Friday is going to be awesome too, and very mushy!
Oh Ang3l, I didn’t know you knew my Sangha Wangha! Are you going to MLG Dallas too?
P.S. Sailor Moon pwns my heart!!!
September 7th, 2008 at 8:46 pm
Congratulations on your first article!
Dating/relationships are really changing with the internet age, and more people spending more time at home and less out so it seems more and more people are meeting through the net this way, and while I hear odd stories now and then it’s really nice to know it does work out!
September 7th, 2008 at 10:29 pm
While I didn’t meet my husband through gaming, we shared that common interest and many others xD
So when our wedding came around we had a Scottish/Gamer theme, with all gaming music(including my walk down music xD), 2 xbox controllers in the shape of a heart as decorations, WoW dancing, and cutting the cake with a HUGE dagger! - then preceding to shove the cake into our best friends faces :P!
September 8th, 2008 at 9:24 am
Wow Lilith! I love weddings, and I never heard of anyone taking their gaming passion that far! I would have loved to be there =D